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    Alternative Healing

    The Invisible Handbrake: Why You Sabotage Your Own Progress

    October 29, 2026 / No Comments

    You’re back at your desk with the same experience, the same credentials and the same ability. But something feels off. A decision that used to take an hour now takes a week. Someone asks you to lead, and you find a reason to pass it along. You are at your desk, but the work moves at a crawl. It feels like driving with the handbrake on. The engine is fine. The brake is engaged somewhere you can’t see. That doesn’t mean you’ve lost your talent. And it doesn’t automatically mean you need more discipline. If a learned rule is holding you back, trying harder may only make you push against…

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    Alternative Healing

    Why It’s So Hard to Let Go (And What It Costs You)

    October 21, 2026 / No Comments

    You gave the work away. Then you took it back. You rewrote the draft after dinner. You checked in so many times that the other person could hardly get on with it. Or you said, “I’ll just quickly review it,” and quietly redid half the task yourself. Nobody made you do that. You did it because letting go felt harder than carrying the work. You keep the whole thing in your head. You carry the list everywhere. You become the only person with the full picture, then feel the pressure of being the only person with the full picture. You might call this micromanaging, but that label doesn’t explain why…

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    Imposter Syndrome: Why Success Doesn’t Fix It

    October 15, 2026 / No Comments

    You are the most senior person in the room. Everyone is waiting for your view. The numbers are familiar. The decision is within your experience. You have handled harder conversations before. And still, you read the briefing again. You rehearse a sentence that should be easy to say. You wonder whether your voice sounds confident enough. Someone asks what you recommend, and for a moment, the thought arrives: What if they realise I am not as capable as they think? This is how people commonly describe imposter syndrome. It is not a diagnosis. It is a widely used phrase for a pattern of thinking and self-assessment that can show up…

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    You’ve Achieved Everything You Wanted. So Why Aren’t You Happy?

    August 18, 2026
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    The Bullshit We Tell Ourselves: Spotting the Stories Holding You Back

    July 26, 2026
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    Why You Feel Stuck (And Why Trying Harder Won’t Fix It)

    October 3, 2026 / No Comments

    You are not doing nothing. You are answering messages. Delivering work. Handling other people's problems. Keeping commitments. Moving between meetings, errands, tasks and responsibilities. But the important decision keeps waiting. You delay the conversation. Keep control of work that should be delegated. Hesitate before raising your price. Rewrite the email for the seventh time. Wait for more certainty. Say yes when you mean no. You stay busy, but nothing important really moves. That is a frustrating place to live. From the outside, it can look like poor discipline. From the inside, it feels more complicated. You know what needs to happen. You may even have a clear plan. Yet when…

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    August 18, 2026
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    Life Coach: What They Actually Do and How to Know If You Need One

    September 24, 2026 / No Comments

    You know what to do. You have solved harder problems than this. You have led teams, built a career, managed pressure and made decisions with incomplete information. But lately, simple things take too long. You reread the email. Delay the conversation. Keep comparing options after you have enough information to choose. You understand the problem, but understanding it has not made you move. That is where a life coach may help. Not by cheering you on. Not by giving you another list of generic advice. A capable life coach can help you close the gap between what you know and what you consistently execute. What does a life coach do?…

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    You Don’t Have a Motivation Problem. You Have a Permission Problem.

    September 7, 2026
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    How to Stop Overthinking Decisions (When You Used to Make Them Easily)

    September 19, 2026 / No Comments

    You used to decide quickly. You could read the situation, weigh the important facts, make the call and move on. Your judgement felt available when you needed it. Now a simple decision can take half a day. You read the same email four times. You create another list of pros and cons. You ask someone else what they think, then question their answer. You make the decision, feel temporary relief, and start second-guessing it before lunch. What happened? The obvious answer is that you have become indecisive. That answer is usually incomplete. Overthinking decisions is often a protection strategy. Something in you is trying to prevent a consequence it now…

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    What Is an ICF Coach? And Why You Should Choose One

    September 9, 2026 / No Comments

    You’re looking for a coach. Not another motivational speaker. Not someone who hands you a collection of inspirational quotes and tells you to believe in yourself. You want someone who can help you think clearly, make better decisions, and perform at the level you know you’re capable of. But the coaching industry is crowded. Anyone can put “coach” on a website. Anyone can sell a package. Anyone can promise transformation. So how do you separate a professional coach from someone who has simply completed a weekend course and created a good-looking Instagram account? One useful place to start is with an ICF credential. What is an ICF coach? An ICF…

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    You Don’t Have a Motivation Problem. You Have a Permission Problem.

    September 7, 2026 / No Comments

    You sit down to do the thing. The proposal is open. The presentation is mostly finished. The decision has been sitting in your inbox for three days. You know what needs to happen. You have the experience. You have the information. You have done harder things before. And still, you do not move. You check your messages. Rework a sentence. Open another tab. Make coffee. Review the numbers one more time. Tell yourself you are being thorough. You are not being thorough. You are standing at the edge of a decision, waiting for something to change inside you. Most people call this a motivation problem. They tell you to get…

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    The Boardroom Echo: Why You Still Feel Like an Imposter After the Promotion

    August 28, 2026 / No Comments

    You got the promotion. The title changed. The salary changed. Your calendar changed. People who used to report to someone else now wait for your decision. And yet, when you sit at the table, something feels wrong. You read the briefing twice. Then again. You rehearse a simple point before saying it. You hear your own voice in the meeting and wonder whether it sounds confident enough. When someone praises your judgement, you explain it away as timing, preparation, or luck. You have the seat. But part of you is still standing outside the room. That is the boardroom echo. It is the sound of an old identity repeating itself…

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    The Insight Trap: Why Knowing Your Limiting Belief Isn’t Enough to Change It

    August 22, 2026 / No Comments

    You know the belief. You can name it clearly. “I have to get everything right.” “If I slow down, I’ll fall behind.” “If I make the wrong decision, people will see I’m not as capable as they thought.” You’ve probably spent time thinking about where it came from. You understand the pattern. You can explain how it affects your choices, your confidence and your performance. And yet, when the pressure arrives, you do it again. You delay the decision. Overprepare the presentation. Recheck the numbers. Avoid the difficult conversation. Say yes when you should say no. Take on work that should belong to someone else. Then you wonder what is…

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Richard Gibson | Business and Performance Coach

Richard Gibson is a highly experienced Business & Personal Development Coach, blending over 25 years of real-world business and technology leadership with certifications in Life Coaching, NLP, and Cognitive Behavioural Coaching. As the founder of Primary Self, Richard specializes in guiding entrepreneurs, founders, and professionals through strategic thinking and self-awareness to achieve significant growth and personal fulfillment.

Recent Posts

  • The Invisible Handbrake: Why You Sabotage Your Own Progress
  • Why It’s So Hard to Let Go (And What It Costs You)
  • Imposter Syndrome: Why Success Doesn’t Fix It
  • Why You Feel Stuck (And Why Trying Harder Won’t Fix It)
  • Life Coach: What They Actually Do and How to Know If You Need One

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